Is he interested? Finally, we both hit our wits end with each other, he couldn’t reciprocate an “I love you” and I was frustrated. ._2YJDRz5rCYQfu8YdgB_neb{overflow:hidden;position:relative}._2YJDRz5rCYQfu8YdgB_neb:before{background-image:url(https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/img/reddit_pattern.png);content:"";filter:var(--newCommunityTheme-invertFilter);height:100%;position:absolute;width:100%}._37WD6iicVS6vGN0RomNTwh{padding:0 12px 12px;position:relative} You don’t need to deal with a guy’s issues when you have your crap figured out. We spend all this time, we go on dates, we talk everyday, I mean come on… BUT…” That’s when you know he doesn’t really want you. Validation and what he gets from you. Ask a hungry man if he wants to eat. 7 He Says: "I Like A Girl Who Doesn't Wear Any Makeup." And you don’t need more than a few days or one week at the outside. And a liar. Whatever the case, his unwillingness to spend time with you says a lot. Show me a guy who isn’t selfish AF - starting to think they don’t even exist. On that same night we slept together he asked me all kinds of questions threw out the night. He’s giving himself space without asking you…meaning he’s afraid to admit the truth. In the same way that you knew how much you wanted this guy from date one, he knew what he wanted with you immediately after meeting you. He may ask you a couple questions and let you talk, but if he keeps coming back to how hot you look right now, it should be obvious that hooking up is all he wants. Women should stop settling, thinking that they can't find the man of their dreams because he's out there, but you won't meet him if you're too busy obsessing over a loser! Ask a hungry man if he wants to eat. You’re cool as long as you’re a convenience. But before I knew it, I was playing a dating game of hot potato. But then he tells me that I have a choice and can leave or wait for him. 99/100 men aren't "too shy" or "too intimidated" to approach a woman they're attracted to. If he notices that you did not get the hint, he will re-engage again and this will be a surefire sign that he wants you to chase him. 11. But the moment you become an inconvenience, you’re out of there. They will push through their shyness, inexperience, shitty romantic experiences, just to ask you out. He just wants to have you around. He says he doesn't know if he wants a relationship. he then goes on to marry the next woman he dates within months or <2 years. What I'm getting, is that he has too many problems and doesn't want to feel alone, and wants to have this hope that oh, he still has this girl waiting for him if he gets "in the mood". you should be the centre of his world. He then tried to VENMO me the cost of the pitcher because he didn't like the fact that I was paying (it would have been less than $15 including tax and tip). A man is going to make it crystal clear that he wants you. Fuck, I literally asked him to eat a napkin to prove his love and this fucking mad lad started chewing (albeit after some convincing lmao); I actually felt bad for this one because I didn't think he'd do it. With Overwatch dude, I had to force every single conversation. you see this all the time with the poor women who are in a relationship with a guy for 7, sometimes 10 years and he never proposes. He only has Friday open for you ever. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. When my boyfriend asked me to be official, he told me about how long he'd been wanting to date me. Where is this whole thing headed? For this guy, it means he wants all the fun parts of a relationship, without the hard parts. If he doesn’t leave, you’re giving him something he wants. You probably don’t have a problem with a guy complimenting your appearance, but if he can’t say anything that doesn’t involve trying to flatter you based on your looks, he has ulterior motives. DO NOT REPLY TO MALE TROLLS!! If a man treats you any less and you've already been seeing him for a month or two months max, cut him off because he will never treat you like his dream girl if he doesn't already treat you like that in the early stages of dating. But ask a man who doesn’t really want you like that. Don’t stay with someone that shows you they don’t want to be with you. But for those that never been in those situations; That made the same mistakes... they will listen, agree and do all the same we repeatedly say not to, over and over again until one day they get fed up of being played of and decide to change into the the bi****They created us. But ask a man who doesn’t really want you like that. But, if he won’t commit, he’s saying loud and clear that he doesn’t want a committed relationship. ._2JU2WQDzn5pAlpxqChbxr7{height:16px;margin-right:8px;width:16px}._3E45je-29yDjfFqFcLCXyH{margin-top:16px}._13YtS_rCnVZG1ns2xaCalg{font-family:Noto Sans,Arial,sans-serif;font-size:14px;font-weight:400;line-height:18px;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex}._1m5fPZN4q3vKVg9SgU43u2{margin-top:12px}._17A-IdW3j1_fI_pN-8tMV-{display:inline-block;margin-bottom:8px;margin-right:5px}._5MIPBF8A9vXwwXFumpGqY{border-radius:20px;font-size:12px;font-weight:500;letter-spacing:0;line-height:16px;padding:3px 10px;text-transform:none}._5MIPBF8A9vXwwXFumpGqY:focus{outline:unset} We got a pitcher but the bar apparently didn't accept cards so I paid since I had cash. Thank you, Yeah I think it is better for you to move on as soon as possible. Now imagine if your FWB/boyfriend/misbehaving moid would treat her the way he'd treat you. If he texts but doesn’t set up a date, he’s not interested ENOUGH. I know that he cried a lot and distanced himself from his wife. If the guy you're dating shows some of these signs he will never commit, it's time for you to cut bait and move on. the guy who broke my heart doesn’t know he did it, and still wants to be friends. I don’t want to be your boyfriend. The moral of the story here is, if a guy wants you 1) it’s going to be crystal clear with no question whatsoever. If his answers are brief, it’s not because he hates texting and would rather just see you in person, it’s because he’s annoyed by you and doesn’t want you to text him anymore. Relationship Advice For Women: He Doesn't Know What He Wants He brings me flowers at work. He hasn’t been very available lately, even when he… or if he does marry the woman who waited for 7 years, you'll be his maid and sex slave while he complains that you gained weight from having his kids and aren't a carefree/fun/spontaneous 22 year old anymore. The nature of men /women. Even before we started dating, he took me to drinks one time at a bar. Though they want to be around you and they like you, they’re scared of starting a relationship with you. He is scared of commitment. He won't change. I asked him to go on a spontaneous trip to another city and he didn't even hesitate and paid for the Airbnb. He said he doesn’t like texting he rather talk face to face. So if you’ve got an XY, don’t reply. Yes, girl, yes! He doesn’t expect her to love these things as much as he does, but he still wants to share his passions. But if there's no compromise and if you're not an exception to any rule whatsoever, guess what? The slightest hint at having to communicate maturely or alter their precious lives for the love of a woman sends them into a tailspin. You will swim across the ocean to make this guy happy, but he won't even step over a puddle for you, that's where the problem is. Everybody has a right to do that, the problem is, if you're a woman that would do anything for this guy, he’s a high priority, you're starting to catch feelings, etc. For example, if he responds with, “Of course I like you. He doesn’t care that his words cut deep, he doesn’t care that his actions are ruining your relationship. the guy who broke my heart doesn’t know he did it, and still wants to be friends. Hollywood movies are full of beautiful 20 something women finding "true love" with a slobby man at least half a decade his junior. However, if it’s been a lot longer than that and he is still telling you he doesn’t know what he wants…then it might be time to consider option 3. It’s so true. If he’s a high-quality guy, it’s worth the wait. You're just wasting your time on him. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! He’s almost offended by the fact that you would even ask him whether or not he actually wants you. Don't feed his ego, or you will end up being so hurtful later. Any thoughts on this situation? They are so selfish that if you disturb their lives in the slightest negative way, they’ll see red flags and ditch you (remember - we’re all “crazy”) - meanwhile, don’t feel bad because the chances are very high that they will forever be alone. It warmed my heart to know I was finally good enough. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Especially since you’re more mature than him in many ways at this stage in life. ._3gbb_EMFXxTYrxDZ2kusIp{margin-bottom:24px;text-transform:uppercase;width:100%}._3gbb_EMFXxTYrxDZ2kusIp:last-child{margin-bottom:10px} I know that as well.. If he doesn’t want to call you his girlfriend or put labels on the relationship, it’s a pretty big sign he’s not that serious. the length of the relationship only really starts counting after "marrying age" aka 22ish+; being unmarried to ur boyfriend of 8 years at 24 is a totally different beast than not being married to your boyfriend of 8 years at 34.) He Doesn’t Want To Call You His Girlfriend. When he says he doesn’t know what he wants, he is actually telling you he knows what he doesn’t want.What he doesn’t want is the relationship you want. We focus on effective dating strategies for women who want to take control of their dating lives. If you don’t get the feeling he respects you, it's one of the signs a guy just wants sex and you really shouldn’t agree to see him anymore. Despite what they may say, guys don't really believe that any girl is out of their league. There are men out there who are tall, cute, highly paid who will treat you well. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. However, if he does not re-engage after pulling away, then maybe he’s just not that into you. After the initial getting to know you stage, when the dating is starting to get more serious, even a relationship should be getting considered, if you’re not getting a vibe that you want, a lot of women say, “The guy must be a horrible person.” But sometimes, a man just doesn’t want you. That can boost his ego. If he doesn’t know he wants you all the way, he’s not worth your time. Follow FDS on social media and join the official website at thefemaledatingstrategy.com for more FDS content beyond Reddit. It's best to have an abundance mindset. If he doesn’t respond to your texts for hours, it’s not because he didn’t have his phone nearby, it’s because he doesn’t think you’re important. 3) You’re definitely going to be an exception for him somewhere, somehow, in his life. He will see your value and will treat you accordingly. You must understand the human mind. Women really don't have to worry about chasing after men or getting a man interested in them. He doesn’t want to commit, but that doesn’t mean he wants you to kick him out of your life. The third one is so true. If he doesn’t know what he wants, it’s because he has yet to find it. He knew my family. My current boyfriend absolutely adores me!! Press J to jump to the feed. • If you straight up ask him, “Where do we stand? Press J to jump to the feed. Just remember that a guy asking you out to coffee means something casual but could be a stepping stone. All they have to focus on is becoming their best self and attracting the right man. My husband is one of those diamonds in the rough. If he can only spend time with you from x o'clock to x o'clock ever. Either he wants to commit or he doesn’t. The moment you say, “This is how I do things and this is what I need…” and he starts getting a little distant, he starts pulling away, if it’s his rules or no rules at all, he just wants to have you around. Always tells me he loves me, loves to cuddle, etc. /*# sourceMappingURL=https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/chunkCSS/ReredditLink.f7b66a91705891e84a09.css.map*/Fucking excellent comment . So if you don’t want anything serious, I think we should leave things for now until you know for sure before we get in any deeper.” In other words, be the one who lets it go. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, More posts from the FemaleDatingStrategy community, Continue browsing in r/FemaleDatingStrategy. Yes!! He stayed over the entire weekend last week and I don't think I did the dishes once. He wants to show her his favorite things – favorite movies, books, activities, and hobbies. What I'm getting, is that he has too many problems and doesn't want to feel alone, and wants to have this hope that oh, he still has this girl waiting for him if he gets "in the mood". A guy who’s genuinely in love with you will be someone who you know well, too. When a guy doesn’t know what he wants, it may be a sign he is simply not ready for anything serious. He also wants to know what her romantic history is like. 11. The tables have turned or whatever where about once a year since he seems to fuck up another relationship and text me out of desperation just to be ignored, but I’m not fooled that he was thinking of me the entire time or anything, he is clearly texting multiple women he had dated before trying to swing into a rebound. Watch him start his answer with something that affirms it before he figures out what he’s gonna say after that magic word BUT. That you're supposed to give him the benefits of a relationship without being in a relationship. But, if he won’t commit, he’s saying loud and clear that he doesn’t want a committed relationship. 9. Here are the three indicators that a man doesn’t want you: • If he doesn’t allow you to make any rules whatsoever. I have the best life now. Do you think he'd have the audacity to make Rihanna pay for her own dinner? You don’t want to rush him, but you don’t want to waste your time, either. I want to be your boyfriend. (n.b. A guy can take you for granted because you’re overly available and always willing to have sex with him. He doesn’t really want you. He literally is a unicorn. HE DOES NOT. This guy's Reddit post is all about what he wants to know about a girl after he goes on a second date with her. It Can Be Hard To Know When A Guy May Be Saying One Thing But Meaning Another. He doesn’t think of you when he’s making decisions. He never once made me wonder how he felt. And I probably should just move on before things get serious for me and I get hurt. A good man is intentional and doesn't play games, and doesn't want to lose you when he finds you. Yes, people are allowed to have their own standards. Go to the gym, do things you like, keep your mind busy and hear the words of wisdom here. the beginning of a relationship period is supposed to be the fucking honeymoon, before any responsibility or bills or family drama or kids come in. vs. He’s almost offended by the fact that you would even ask him whether or not he actually wants you. So you have two choices. However, I've transcribed them so we can read them over and over again to make them stick in our memory much easier. However he comes to my house almost every weekend and we talk everyday. Some guys don’t want a long term relationship. He now wants to have a divorce and never wants to see his wife ever again. I’m totally stealing this mindset. But then when I tell him that we should stop then because we're wasting each other's time, he seems conflicted and tells me that he wants to meet my parents and that I could come to Holland with him and all that stuff and I'm just like ... why would we do this if we're not serious. Anyone who says they’ve got the trick is simply telling tall tales. Do you think he'd wait two days to text Emily Didonato back? My boyfriend pays for pretty much everything (he would pay for everything if I let him). When a guy really wants anything, he makes it crystal clear. Word @ only having Friday open being a red flag. If he doesn’t want to call you his girlfriend or put labels on the relationship, it’s a pretty big sign he’s not that serious. He wants her to be ambitious in terms of where her career is going, he wants her to be goal-oriented, and he's interested in what her family background is. then he doesn't want you. Picture the most beautiful woman you can imagine. My life got better and the quality of men I dated improved so much when I started following this philosophy. 1) stay with him uncommitted. If he doesn’t connect – he’s not interested. You're just on two completely different pages and you're about to get hurt. 2) Leave him and look for the love you want and deserve. There are multiple reasons that this could have happened to them, but commitment-phobes hardly ever know what they want.. He doesn't. He never lets me lift a single finger to the point where I feel kind of bad. If you figure out you’re on different pages, you might leave him, and that’s a risk he’s avoiding. Need help with your relationship? Met this guy a little more than a month ago, our mutual friend introduced us, we clicked and made out the second day of meeting. This is the only way you can find out what you want to know – by waiting and doing nothing. yes it is ironically the shit men (especially the uglier dusties that STILL cheat) that turn women into high maintenance bitches. Edit: and ik people are gonna say things like "it's so hard to find someone THAT enthusiastic" but i'm legitimately not joking - it is better to be single than date someone who isn't insanely into you. If you want commitment and he doesn’t, you have different goals for the relationship. If you don't feel that certainty and excitement from him, he's simply not that into you and you're wasting your time on him. It's also important for women to uphold the "Would he treat x (a famous model or celebrity) this way?" If literally all he does is make fun of you, you might be right in that he doesn't like you. I don't know what kind of guy this guy is. They’re 100 true, women here know what they are talking about. I am a stay at home mom, he works hard for us all day, comes home and cooks us dinner, cleans up and gives me a foot massage. I don't know what he wants!" • If you don't get any more of his pre-allocated investment in a woman — time, energy, financial. He tells me he would die for me. If you do walk away, he might decide he DOES want to be with you. It could be anything. (n.b.2 marriage is a scam for women, stay woke). I went from "dating" a deadbeat stoner who played Overwatch all day but couldn't find time to text me more than twice a week to being in a relationship with an intelligent, compassionate, attractive, tall (sorry, manlets, i'm thin so u can't even "hurr durr what u weigh" this one), athletic man who spoils me all the time and is in a field that makes $$$$$$. /*# sourceMappingURL=https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/chunkCSS/TopicLinksContainer.361933014be843c79476.css.map*/._2ppRhKEnnVueVHY_G-Ursy{-ms-flex-align:center;align-items:center;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;margin:22px 0 0;min-height:200px;overflow:hidden;position:relative}._2KLA5wMaJBHg0K2z1q0ci_{margin:0 -7px -8px}._1zdLtEEpuWI_Pnujn1lMF2{bottom:0;position:absolute;right:52px}._3s18OZ_KPHs2Ei416c7Q1l{margin:0 0 22px;position:relative}.LJjFa8EhquYX8xsTnb9n-{filter:grayscale(40%);position:absolute;top:11px}._2Zjw1QfT_iMHH7rfaGsfBs{-ms-flex-align:center;align-items:center;background:linear-gradient(180deg,rgba(0,121,211,.24),rgba(0,121,211,.12));border-radius:50%;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;height:25px;-ms-flex-pack:center;justify-content:center;margin:0 auto;width:25px}._2gaJVJ6_j7vwKV945EABN9{background-color:var(--newCommunityTheme-button);border-radius:50%;height:15px;width:15px;z-index:1} Or maybe he doesn’t think you can handle his honesty. He makes sure to spend time with me every single day even if it’s only a few minutes in passing. This one is pretty obvious. 2. I know that he is a very emotionall and nice guy who treats other people very good. [new] i (25m) met a friend (26m) through friends online about a year ago. Even if you are ready to commit after 3 weeks, it might take him 3 months. How do you feel about me? Sounds like he doesn’t. “The moment you become an inconvenience you’re out of there” - be especially aware of this one! If he's a f*ckboy or just someone who's just too nervous to hang out with you. He doesn’t want you to know that you’re not on the same page. Why It’s So Confusing When He Says He Doesn’t Want to Lose You but Doesn’t Want to Commit. The reason you don't know what he wants is because likely he also doesn't know what he wants. 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